A Valentine for My Single Ladies

Yep, it’s coming again.  That day, that arrives every year filled with chocolate hearts, mushy cards, flowers, stuffed teddy bears, love songs, romantic dinner dates, and a whole lot of pink and red everywhere you go.  For those that may be single, have never been married, divorced, about to get divorced, on the verge of a break up, broken hearted, figuring out the dating scene, or completely avoiding the dating scene, it is also filled with a whole lot of pressure.

Not only does this pressure come from the outside world, from people, commercials, to walking into every store being reminded, here we are, another year, and no special Valentine.  I want to tell you ladies, I feel you.  I am with you.  I have been there.  I used to allow myself to have my own annual personal pity party so to speak, around this day.  That internal pressure, would turn into internal self-criticism, questioning what is wrong with me?  Why don’t I have a Valentine yet? 

Then I realized, that annual pity party, was not so much fun.  It left me feeling worse- confused, not good enough, and unworthy of what this beautiful holiday is all about- Love.  I want to break this cycle of self-doubt, blame, judgement, anger, and disappointment for all of those living in singledom this year.  This holiday has absolutely nothing to do with any of those negative thought patterns.  We must remember, what we focus on, is what will manifest.  Left to linger, such hurtful words we say to ourselves, will leave us with quite an unattractive energy- we will walk around angry, with low self-esteem, and in a bad mood.  Who would be interested to hang around that all day?

Perhaps, looking at this holiday with a different perspective is what we all need.  It is simply about Love.  And when you stop focusing on yourself, and what you think is wrong with your current life situation, you recognize that Love really is everywhere.  It is in the smile, you exchanged with your neighbor, in children laughing and playing, in the hug you gave your best friend, in the phone call with a loved one, in the time you listened to that person, who needed to talk, in the forgiveness you gave someone, in the piece of art you created, in your favorite hobby you are passionate about, in the time you spend with family, and in the quiet time you find with yourself.  We receive Love from nature every day- from the sun, the moon, the earth and sky.
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Love is here for you and with you, right where you are.  Love is all around us, even more so within us.  The circumstances of your life, are no secret to the Universe, for all is in Divine order.  Make time this year, to get quiet, and tap into the Love and peace inside of you, and then go share it.  Share it with a friend, a family member, or a stranger, and know, that every expression of Love is a miracle.  When we are in the space of Love, we walk taller, we shine brighter, and we manifest even more miracles, one by one.   So, grab that heart shaped box of candy, sit back, and bask in this Love more than ever this year. This Love is here to stay. 
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